Mu mezi ane ashize muri Tokiyo, nagiye muri ubwo bwato hafi buri munsi, tuguma mu gitondo nijoro, ariko ntaguma ijoro ryose. Noneho ko ndimo gukora documentaire kuri hoteri, nyirubwite yampaye icyumba cyihariye kugirango nshobore kwizihiza ikirere cyukuri cya Hotel Amezi make yakurikiyeho. Numinsi mike, inyongore Guhamagara uburiri, kandi rimwe na rimwe ntibyari bitangaje kubona umugore ugendana numugabo ku mbwa.
Wigeze utekereza kubijyanye no guhambirwa cyangwa guhambira mugenzi wawe mubyumba? BDSS-ikubiyemo uburetwa, indero, gutegeka no kuganduka, na sallemasochism - byakuze mubyamamare mumyaka. Uburyo bukunzwe nubucakara ni Shibari, bizwi kandi nka japage yumusozi wumuyapani.
Shibari ni igikorwa cyo mu mwuka.
Nubwo yamamaye, Zari ntabwo ari imyitozo yo mu mwuka mu Buyapani. Nibibazo kubashimira ubundi buryo bwa kink, nkubutaka bwuruhu, gukubita, imikino yo kwica urubozo, gutegeka no kuganduka, nibindi byinshi. Umugozi wumuyapani urashobora kuba imikino yimibonano mpuzabitsina, haraturemo mu isi, cyangwa ibintu byose biri hagati. "
Shibari agomba kuba bigoye kandi bigoye.
Nubwo bishobora kuba ingorabahizi, ntabwo rwose bigomba kuba. Ntugomba kwiga no kumenya imiterere igoye idashobora no kuba byiza kuri wewe cyangwa umubiri wa mugenzi wawe. Isano zimwe, cyangwa corset yoroshye, birashimishije. Umunsi urangiye, bireba kwishimisha hamwe no kwiyumvisha, ntabwo ari iterabwoba cyangwa gushimisha.
Shibari yose yerekeye kwishima.
Ku buso, Shibari arasa nkaho yibanda gusa ku binezeza gusa, ariko ntabwo buri gihe byari bimeze. Nk'uko byatangajwe n'umurezi wimibonano mpuzabitsina Denis Graveris, abantu batandukanye bafite intego zitandukanye zo kwishora muriyi bubata. Yavuze ko abantu bakunze guhura numubiri mugihe na nyuma ya Shibari, ariko ariko ntabwo abantu bose bakeneye gushyiramo imibonano mpuzabitsina. Ariko, kubera kwiringira uburambe, uzakomeza kubona ikintu cyimbitse kandi umva uri hafi yundi muntu.
Shibariya ni urugomo.
Ububabare burashobora kuba ikintu cya Shibari, ariko ntibukwiye kumva ko aribwo iyicarubozo, cyangwa ntibukwiye kuba bidashimishije. Ibi ni ukunezeza, ntabwo ari imibabaro yawe. Icyizere nikindi kintu cyingenzi mugukina "Shibari" hagati yawe na mugenzi wawe.
Inyungu za Chai Bari
1. Itezimbere ubucuti.
Ibanga ryo kwibasiwe nubucakara bishimishije abantu benshi batavuga nuko bisaba guhuza hafi no guhanahana ibintu.
2. Biroroshye kumenyera, guhuza bidashira.
Kimwe nibintu byinshi mubuzima, ntamuntu numwe-uhuye na Shibari. Ntabwo ifitanye isano itagira ingano, kandi urashobora kumenyekana no guhindura kugirango uhuze ubwoko bwumubiri wose, urwego rwimyitozo, hamwe nuburambe. Ntugomba guhinduka kugirango wishimire Shibari, ugomba gusa gusobanuka kubikorwa nibidashoboka.
3. Irashobora kuguha igipimo cyiza cya endorphine.
Dukurikije Grevelis, iyo uhisemo kwakira uburambe, umubiri wawe uraguhemba numva - imisemburo nziza nka endorphine, Serotonine, na Dopamine. Umaze kumenya ubwo buhanga, urashobora gusunika umubiri wawe kumupaka kugeza igihe biguha izi nyungu.
Gushakisha Shibari ninzira nziza yo kukuzanira hamwe na mugenzi wawe hafi. Nuburyo bwiza bwo kumenya umubiri wawe neza, amaherezo uzagusiga urumva imbaraga. Ariko, ni ngombwa gukora ubushakashatsi bwawe mbere yo kubikora.
Kandi, ntugerageze kwigana ibyifuzo byarashwe nibyiza udafashe ingamba zumutekano ukwiye. Nibyo, burigihe komeza umukino wawe neza kandi kubushake rwose.
Igihe cya nyuma: Aug-04-2023
