Mu mezi ane yabanjirije i Tokiyo, nagiye muri iyo hoteri hafi buri munsi, nkarara mu gitondo kugeza nijoro, ariko sinarara.Noneho ko ndimo gukora documentaire yerekeye hoteri, nyirayo yampaye icyumba cyihariye kugirango nshobore kubona ikirere cyurukundo nyarwo mumezi make ari imbere.Mu minsi mike, namenyereye rimwe na rimwe kwongorera, kuniha. no guhamagara kuryama, kandi rimwe na rimwe ntibyatangaje kubona umugore azenguruka hamwe numugabo ku mbwa.
Wigeze utekereza guhambirwa cyangwa guhambira umukunzi wawe mubyumba?BDSM - ikubiyemo uburetwa, indero, kuganza no kuganduka, hamwe na sadomasochism - yagiye ikundwa cyane mu myaka yashize.Uburyo buzwi cyane mubucakara ni shibari, bizwi kandi nk'umugozi w'Abayapani.
Shibari nigikorwa cyumwuka.
Nubwo abantu benshi bizera, zari ntabwo ari imyitozo yo mu mwuka mu Buyapani.Nibibaho kubantu bishimira ubundi buryo bwa kink, nkubucakara bwuruhu, gukubita, gukina iyicarubozo, kuganza no kuganduka, nibindi byinshi.Umugozi w'Abayapani urashobora kuba imikino yimibonano mpuzabitsina iteye isoni, gutuza mu isi irimo akajagari, cyangwa ibintu byose biri hagati.”
Shibari igomba kuba igoye kandi igoye.
Nubwo bishobora kuba bigoye, mubyukuri ntabwo bigomba.Ntugomba kwiga no kumenya imiterere igoye ishobora no kutagira ubuzima bwiza kuri wewe cyangwa kumubiri wa mugenzi wawe.Amasano amwe yibanze, cyangwa corset yoroshye, birashimishije.Umunsi urangiye, bijyanye no gusangira kwishimisha no kwiyumvamo ibintu, ntabwo iterabwoba cyangwa ibishimishije.
Shibari byose bijyanye no kwishima.
Urebye, shibari isa nkaho yibanda gusa ku mibonano mpuzabitsina, ariko siko byagenze buri gihe.Nk’uko byatangajwe na Denis Graveris wigisha ibijyanye n'imibonano mpuzabitsina, abantu batandukanye bafite intego zitandukanye zo kwishora muri ubwo bucakara.Avuga ko abantu bakunze kumenya umubiri mugihe cya shibari na nyuma yacyo, ariko ntabwo uburambe bwose bukeneye gushiramo imibonano mpuzabitsina.Ariko, kubera kwizera ibyakubayeho, uzakomeza kubona ikintu cyimbitse kandi wumve uri hafi yundi muntu.
Shibari ni urugomo.
Graveris yavuze ko ububabare bushobora kuba ikintu cya shibari, ariko ntigomba kumva ko ari iyicarubozo, kandi ntigomba no kuba idashimishije.Ibi nibyishimo byawe, ntabwo ari kububabare bwawe.Kwizera nikindi kintu cyingenzi mugukina “shibari” hagati yawe na mugenzi wawe.
Inyungu za chai bari
1. Biteza imbere ubucuti.
Ibanga ryo kuba imbata nubucakara abantu benshi batavuga nuko bisaba guhura hafi no guhanahana amarangamutima.
2. Biroroshye guhuza n'imihindagurikire y'ikirere.
Nkibintu byinshi mubuzima, ntaburyo bumwe-buhuza-shibari.Irashobora guhinduka cyane, kandi urashobora kuyihindura no kuyihindura kugirango ihuze ubwoko bwose bwumubiri, urwego rwimyitwarire, hamwe nuburambe.Ntugomba guhinduka kugirango wishimire shibari, ugomba gusa gusobanura neza icyakora nikitagenda.
3. Irashobora kuguha igipimo cyiza cya endorphine.
Ku bwa Grevelis, iyo uhisemo kwakira uburambe, umubiri wawe uraguhemba imisemburo myiza-nziza nka endorphine, serotonine, na dopamine.Umaze kumenya ubwo buhanga, urashobora gusunika umubiri wawe kumupaka kugeza iguhaye inyungu.
Gucukumbura shibari ninzira nziza yo kukwegera hamwe numufasha wawe.Nuburyo kandi bwiza bwo kumenya umubiri wawe neza, amaherezo bizagusiga wumva ufite imbaraga.Ariko, ni ngombwa gukora ubushakashatsi bwawe mbere yo kubikora.
Kandi, ntugerageze kwigana imyanya yarashwe nibyiza udafashe ingamba zikwiye z'umutekano.Birumvikana: burigihe urinde umukino wawe umutekano kandi kubushake rwose.
Igihe cyo kohereza: Kanama-04-2023
